9 Positive Signs to Look for in Early Stages of a New Relationship

When you’re starting a new relationship, it’s easy to get caught up in looking for red flags. But what about the positive signs? Dating coach highlights nine subtle yet significant green flags that indicate a healthy and promising start to a new romance.

1. You’re Not Obsessively Thinking About Them: If your day isn’t consumed with thoughts about them, it means your attachment system isn’t triggered, allowing you to remain calm and focused.
2. Ease Over Tension: When you’re together, it feels natural and relaxed, not tense. This indicates that the relationship is comforting for your nervous system.
3. Openness Over Defensiveness: They listen to your opinions and vulnerabilities without getting defensive, showing they value your perspective.
4. Willingness to Apologize: Even for small things, their readiness to apologize shows maturity and consideration for your feelings.
5. Respect for Your Time: They understand when you’re busy and don’t take your other commitments personally, showing they respect your life outside the relationship.
6. Being Your Authentic Self: If you feel comfortable being yourself without fear of judgment, it’s a good sign of a healthy relationship.
7. Receiving and Giving Compliments: Pay attention to how they react to compliments and how they speak about others. Gracious acceptance and reciprocation of kind words indicate a positive outlook.
8. Interaction with Friends and Family: Observing how they treat their loved ones can be very telling. Of course, this varies depending on individual family dynamics.
9. Openness to Your Interests: They show interest in your ideas and are willing to try new things just because you like them, indicating a genuine investment in your happiness.

Keep an eye out for these green flags, as they can lead you toward healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

Peggy Bolcoa

Hello, I’m Peggy Bolcoa — LMFT, Ph.D., and I love my job. I have been counseling couples and families for 23 years. I have discovered that Emotionally Focused Therapy is the most effective method for healing impaired relationships. This method shows how oblivious partners are to each other’s real emotions or intentions. I make great efforts to help couples understand their attachment styles and turn them into secure and pleasant relationships. I’m pleased to share my experience and personal comments on the content published on the following website. I do my best to explain complicated scientific concepts in simple language.